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Embracing Desire


Discover What Makes You Come Alive!

Do you ever blank completely when asked the question, ''What do you want?'' or in the face of the same question were afraid to ask for what you really wanted? You are in a situation where you have actual desire and when the question comes, ‘’what do you want’’, you freeze, get embarrassed, feel unworthy or any one of any number of desire blocking feelings? Know that you are not alone and you can change this. You can ask for what you want. This is a skill that can be practiced and mastered.    

The inability to access and to give voice to our desire if it occurs only occasionally is annoying and perhaps uncomfortable. When it is frequent or at moments when we most want something it is painful and discouraging. It can mean that you don't get to know that interesting man better or that a coworker moves ahead with your ideas or gets the job you want. It means you endure a lot of things, perhaps sexually, perhaps in family situations. It also means that others define your life for you. That you live with unexpressed dreams. You may find yourself frequently jealous and/or angry. It results in you seeing others lead lives that allow them to express themselves and you only know that you are not living the life you want or that you don't like your life very much.

Is your ‘’asker’’ puny and small, rarely used at all?

You probably have been in the grocery store checkout line with a child who was an asking machine. While pointing in the direction of every bright and shiny thing saying ''I want''. How that impulse gets tamed or squashed has a big effect on our ability to access and articulate our desires. Add to that desires that were non-gender confirming and same sex attraction and you have an ''asker'', if Dr. Suess had named it, that is puny and small and rarely used, if at all.  Curiosity is the first causality of externally dampened desire. The kid at the store doesn't want all that stuff, she just wants to know what it is. Our initial expressions of desire are often about exploration. If we can't explore and test our desires, how are we able to truly know what we want? 

Accessing desire and expressing what we want is a skill that can be learned. Our ability to give voice to what we want not only gets us more of what we want, it also creates greater intimacy and deeper connections. How would your life change if you always had an answer for the following questions? What do you really want? What turns you on? What creates the fire that leads to deep and juicy connection? What can I do for you? I created the ''Embracing Desire'' workshop as a way for men to find ways to authentically answer these questions. They reacquaint themselves with their desire; clear out some of the clutter that prevents access to or obscures desire; and to find new ways of asking for what they want.

Who should attend/what to expect? The workshop was designed for men of all orientations interested in exploring their access and connection to desire and passion. Some experience in cloths off erotic environments is useful. Through touch, experimentation and play we will use the power of eros to assist one another in bringing into focus what you really want - that which makes you alive. In an environment of experimentation we can be curious, naked & connected on a path to greater pleasure & joy and a life connected to our desire.

Join us for a long weekend of exploring desire, in a circle of similar minded men.

If you have questions please reach out to me at

"Don't ask what the world needs. Ask what makes you come alive, and go do that. Because what the world needs is people who have come alive." - Howard Thurman

Men in past workshops said the following of their experience:  

  • I have learned to own my desires and not to be ashamed of them. Chris.

  • I discovered a nurturing space where men grow community together, to freely explore their hearts and soul’s desire. – Greg

  • The experience for me has been healing for me. I think I’ve been aware of changes I want to make in my life, but now I have practical tools to use to make those changes happen. – Jim



Rates and Accommodations

All rates include housing, food and programming unless otherwise noted. Bookings are per person per bed.

  • Commuter: $ 245
    Does not include Housing. Use this option if you want to attend the programming and have meals, but wish to stay off campus.

  • Garden Cabin: $ 495
    Dormitory style with 5 bunk beds that can sleep up to 10 people. Bathrooms facilities in the Lodge, 500 ft away

  • Quad: $ 545
    Each quad room has two sets of bunk beds. its own bathroom and a shower. You may be sharing with up to 3 other guests.

  • Semi Private: $ 695
    Each semi-private room has 2 beds, a bathroom and shower. You may be sharing with 1 other guest.

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Later Event: October 25
Soulful Touch